Accountability 2.0

I want to hold myself accountable.

I recently passed on an opportunity to write for another blog. It was actually more like avoiding dealing with the responsibility of ending it before starting. I said ‘yes’ to being interested 2x, not completely thinking it through. In the end, they passed on me. 

I thought about why I went about it this way. Was it because..

  • I didn’t care because it wasn’t a personal/ in real life connection?
  • I didn’t have the balls to end it before it started?

Either way, its not OK. I want to acknowledge that.

Moral of the story: Take some time to think before you say yes. Do not take on too much. Prioritize and be good at one thing. Once you are, then you can move on to the next big thing. 

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Accountability

In this post, I wrote about several goals I’d like to accomplish in the next 2 months. It’s almost the 1 month mark (have one more week left), but let’s dive in on what I have accomplished so far.

  • Revamp my portfolio to showcase both photography & graphic design works. 
    • On track! I don’t know if “revamp” is the right word to use here, but I uploaded most of my photos and design works in my portfolio. I still have to learn how to correctly organize it. The blog’s theme isn’t exactly user friendly.
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  • Settle on a personal brand (establish a logo and brand name). I do not want to be yet another “(Name) Photography” site.
    • Logo is completed.
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    • Still toying with what exactly I should call it. I keep using “lilo (type of photo)” on my Instagram hashtags because I keep thinking I should stick to “Lilo Factor” as the name. However, my logical brain is thinking, “you’re going to get sued by the movie people for using “Lilo”. Work in progress as you can read. 
  • Stop reading about how to start creating and just do it. 
    • Can’t remember when I last read an article about “creating”, so on track!
  • Stop comparing my site to others. 
    • On track! I’ve stopped caring about when I should post. I stopped caring about my stats. 
  • Write and post whatever the heck I want/feel about on any given day. Editorial calendar be damned.
    • On track! See previous goal update. 🙂 

Overall, it looks like I’m on track with these goals. I feel like I should add more to this, but maybe I’m getting ahead of myself? Baby steps?

NAHHHH… 

I do have some ideas in mind on the next actions to pursue, but still firming it up offline.

I have to say, I’m loving this putting my goals online and holding myself accountable to them (ugh, can this sentence be any more passive???).

 

Shoulder Shrug by Mr. Hart

Sometimes when life throws you a curveball you gotta just give it a shoulder shrug or make fun of it.

At least that’s what I got from Kevin Hart’s new book, I Can’t Make This Up.

Though sometimes it is hard to just shoulder shrug it, especially if you’re the type of person who don’t seem to understand why certain things happen.

Anyway, I prefer the shoulder shrug. It amounts to less stress and worry.

All for now.

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5 things to avoid when you had a bad day

I have to admit, when a day kicks me in the behind, I lose all sense of creativity and motivation. I just want to plop down and chill OR plop down and bang my head against a pillow.

This was how I felt for the most part of last year (and today):

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Well, Liane, you f***** need to change that (says me talking to myself). While it’s cool to loose all your nerve and cool on a crappy day, it’s not cool to let it affect your motivation or your goals. Go bizerk for a couple of hours, but then learn and move on.

So, if this happens to you – what would you normally do? I myself would like to avoid the following:

  1. Wallow in self-pity while I read inspirational or how to articles.
  2. Endlessly scroll Instagram. Though I still do this, I do it for the sake of inspiring myself to create (at least, that’s what I keep reminding myself).
  3. Sleep.
  4. Binge watch while not doing anything productive.
  5. Complain.

23 reasons why you should read this post

Hello Interwebs. It’s been a while since we last danced.

Well, not really. Let’s face the music. I ignored this blog for 8 months. A lot has happened since then:

  1. I got a new job.
  2. I celebrated my first new year in New York.
  3. I went to the Philippines for a week to see my entire direct family.
  4. I met my best friend’s son and my brother’s new son.
  5. I photographed another sweet 16 party.
  6. I struggled with life. A lot.
  7. I barely escaped the struggle. Barely scathed.
  8. I learned hard lessons.
  9. Vilified a few out there. Realized that it’s better to just let things be.
  10. Tried out Hello Fresh (still trying).
  11. Subscribed to Adobe Illustrator.
  12. Studying how to use Adobe Illustrator.
  13. Went to the International Car Show at the Javits Center.
  14. Discovered a flea market that gives back.
  15. Developed a slight obsession for this Filipino fashion brand.
  16. Started a photography gear wishlist.
  17. Reached out to some folks online via Shapr and Danielle Moss’ blog.
  18. Wrote a lot on my Passion Planner.
  19. Bought Tombow Dual Brush Pens.
  20. Practiced Calligraphy with said Tombow Dual Brush Pens
  21. Renewed my apartment’s lease for another year
  22. Continuously praying that I don’t have to move for another year.
  23. Endlessly thought about starting a photography side business.

I got more, but I figured 23 is a good stopping point before you start to get bored with me.

So what’s next for me? Well, I hope to accomplish the following in the next 2 months:

  • Revamp my portfolio to showcase both photography & graphic design works. 
  • Settle on a personal brand (establish a logo and brand name). I do not want to be yet another “(Name) Photography” site.
  • Stop reading about how to start creating and just do it. 
  • Stop comparing my site to others. 
  • Write and post whatever the heck I want/feel about on any given day. Editorial calendar be damned.

Last year, I chose “Create” as my word. It became a crappy year for it, so I chose it again this year. I’m accountable to myself and to anyone who reads this post. I will come out this year having created a number of AWESOMENESS (I’m making that a word).

Ciao e a domani. 

 

Getting Personal

I haven’t posted anything in a while because I don’t know what to post. Truthfully, I lack the motivation and inspiration to post anything relevant for everyone. I’ve been exposed to too much noise that for the most part I felt I didn’t want to add to it. It’s one of those “too many cooks” experiences for me.

Today, after listening to an hour long webinar by Jenna Kutcher, gave me a small inkling to write and post something. She mentioned that connecting to people in a more personal level can help with marketing oneself. The webinar was about how to grow a photography business, but the lesson is also relevant here.

I honestly find it difficult to be personal especially in a forum of strangers. We all know the internet is full of trolls and psychos, basically people who make it a mission in their lives to put others down. But, truthfully I find it difficult to share personal things about myself because I am afraid of judgment, especially from people who don’t know me at all.

I also have recently found it increasingly difficult to be myself and to do things my own way. I always find people misunderstanding what I have to say, even if I mean otherwise. I also find that even if I have other people’s best interest at heart, my way is often not the best course of action to go. Having to put myself in a forum like this where every single word I write can be misconstrued makes it even harder for me to get personal and be myself.

While this may sound like I’m complaining, I’m really not.Don’t get me wrong, communicating is something that I am working on every single day. I also know communication in all forms is something that everyone should be willing work and improve on.

I guess you could say this is me writing something personal… 

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1 tip about anger

There are times when you just feel like getting mad at everyone around you.

I could make a list of how to avoid this, but I’ll share the one simple suggestion my mom told me:

When you’re mad or see yourself close to getting mad, just remember that this is the devil’s handy work. Pray to God and give your anger to Him. Let God deal with it. When you do this, just watch how things flow naturally away from the anger.

4 Years Ago..

I stepped out of La Guardia Airport with a huge bag in tow. I went in line for a taxi, snubbed a would be “black car” driver, and sweat my ass off because it was humid af. This was my “Welcome to New York” greeting.

 

Couple of weeks ago, I came across the first street I ever lived in. It was so far from the subway line, but convenient enough since it’s close to markets, coffee shops & restaurants. It was an AirBnB rental that I had for 2 weeks.

Those 2 weeks were the busiest I’ve ever been. Looking for an apartment or a room was not an easy fit especially if you’re new to the city. To top it off, I also started my internship (a requirement I had to fulfill in order to get my MBA diploma). Craiglist became my best friend/enemy, but it somehow came through for me. I found an apartment 2 days before my AirBnB rental was up and found myself trekking to Sunnyside.

Since then, I called Sunnyside my home. Can’t imagine moving away from here though I have a slight inkling that it may happen next year given how rent increases have been.

People asked me, why New York? Well, I came here to jumpstart my career in fashion (circa 2012). I wanted to be in product development in fashion, but because I didn’t have the “experience”, I had to look elsewhere. Now, 3 years later, I work in the beauty industry alongside product developers. I’m not a product developer myself, but I get so much exposure on the processes.

New York has taught me a lot about life. It taught me that it’s OK to see poop and huge rats in the subway because that’s the norm. I learned that smells are a part of everyday city living and I shouldn’t complain about it. Also, the NYC subway system is like Hunger Games, especially during rush hour, people can be brutal and snappy especially when trains don’t run smoothly.

Would I stay for another four years in this city? Why yes. Would I feel different in a year or so? Possibly. But you know, New York gives off that vibe. You know that vibe that tells you to not give up on her and to keep on trekking. That’s what New York does.

 

Pun Full of Mush

I have a Head Full of Dreams. No.. more like A Head Full of Mush. Just a little pun from my recent Coldplay obsession.

Lately, I’ve been feeling stale. Must be one of the effects of not exercising according to this. I’ve been obsessed with Coldplay lately, so maybe listening to their songs would help remove the mush.

Learned quite a few times that in order to move forward from a project’s problem, one must always think about the original goal of the project. Maybe this will work with me. This year is project CREATE. So what does that look like for me year to date? I did a professional midyear review last week, so I need to do a personal one.

Anyway, I leave you all with a video of Coldplay’s recent tour:

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2015 is now a seemingly distant past. I started the year off with celebrating the New Year with my family and witnessing my best friends’ special occasion in the Philippines. Then, I saw and listened to a talk given by a French model. Traveled down south to New Orleans. Accepted a second professional speaking engagement.  Visited 3 New England states. Learned a lot from personal and professional mistakes made throughout the year.

In 2015, I made 3 goals for myself and my overall rating on what I accomplished for each one:

  1. Simplify = 70%
  2. Career Development = 80%
  3. Fitness = 5%

In this post, I never really explained what action plans I needed to do for each goal. It was never laid out anywhere. All I knew was that I needed to simplify, further develop my career, and maintain a healthy lifestyle. I knew what the goals were, but my action plans were, to put it simply, all over the place.  I suffered a lot of analysis paralysis throughout the year and I read more inspirational articles, but never quite put anything into concrete actions.

This year, I hope to change this. This year, I’m simplifying by focusing on one word. The inspiration came from an article I read on Levo League and I thought this was as simple as a goal should get.

2016 is a big milestone year for me because I turn 30 this year. So for such a big milestone, I choose to focus on the word CREATE.

  1. CREATE more opportunities for myself.
  2. Try out new recipes at home.
  3. Go back into photography.
  4. Build my own website from scratch.
  5. Continue to build a personal brand.
  6. Write on the blog.
  7. Contribute articles to blogs I follow, like The Everygirl.
  8. Make the time to do yoga or kickboxing.

I could probably go on until I reach 30.. but I think you get my drift.

Happy New Year everyone and may this year bring you more blessings than any of the previous years before it.

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