I recently passed on an opportunity to write for another blog. It was actually more like avoiding dealing with the responsibility of ending it before starting. I said ‘yes’ to being interested 2x, not completely thinking it through. In the end, they passed on me.
I thought about why I went about it this way. Was it because..
I didn’t care because it wasn’t a personal/ in real life connection?
I didn’t have the balls to end it before it started?
Either way, its not OK. I want to acknowledge that.
Moral of the story: Take some time to think before you say yes. Do not take on too much. Prioritize and be good at one thing. Once you are, then you can move on to the next big thing.
I miss Bologna (Bo-lo-nya). My second home away from home.
I learned a lot living in this quaint little city. I explored every nook there is, though I know I missed some hidden treasures.
Here are the top 3 lessons it taught me:
I became self-sufficient. Though in some respect I had help. My sister’s high school friend and her family helped me navigate the city. She took me under her wing as part of her family. My Italian roommate helped me through the apartment renting process. It was tedious and frustrating, especially if you don’t speak the language. I dealt with the bank on my own (thanks to my Italian lessons, I was able to brokenly speak with the tellers).
Bologna taught me patience. It almost bypassed me because I was a stubborn Americanized person who didn’t know any better. I missed integrating myself into the culture of ‘dolce far niente’ (sweetness of doing nothing). I took years off my life by stressing out about how I only got internet service 4 months before I left the country. In the end, what I got is a slap in the face “it doesn’t effin matter, you’re in Italy for pete’s sake”.
For the most part, I uncovered the city on my own. I went to places that only locals went to. Shopped at markets for fresh and local ingredients to cook at home. Frequented makeup and skincare indie shops – I literally became obsessed with beauty when I lived in Italy.
I have to admit, when a day kicks me in the behind, I lose all sense of creativity and motivation. I just want to plop down and chill OR plop down and bang my head against a pillow.
This was how I felt for the most part of last year (and today):
Well, Liane, you f***** need to change that (says me talking to myself). While it’s cool to loose all your nerve and cool on a crappy day, it’s not cool to let it affect your motivation or your goals. Go bizerk for a couple of hours, but then learn and move on.
So, if this happens to you – what would you normally do? I myself would like to avoid the following:
Wallow in self-pity while I read inspirational or how to articles.
Endlessly scroll Instagram. Though I still do this, I do it for the sake of inspiring myself to create (at least, that’s what I keep reminding myself).
I haven’t posted anything in a while because I don’t know what to post. Truthfully, I lack the motivation and inspiration to post anything relevant for everyone. I’ve been exposed to too much noise that for the most part I felt I didn’t want to add to it. It’s one of those “too many cooks” experiences for me.
Today, after listening to an hour long webinar by Jenna Kutcher, gave me a small inkling to write and post something. She mentioned that connecting to people in a more personal level can help with marketing oneself. The webinar was about how to grow a photography business, but the lesson is also relevant here.
I honestly find it difficult to be personal especially in a forum of strangers. We all know the internet is full of trolls and psychos, basically people who make it a mission in their lives to put others down. But, truthfully I find it difficult to share personal things about myself because I am afraid of judgment, especially from people who don’t know me at all.
I also have recently found it increasingly difficult to be myself and to do things my own way. I always find people misunderstanding what I have to say, even if I mean otherwise. I also find that even if I have other people’s best interest at heart, my way is often not the best course of action to go. Having to put myself in a forum like this where every single word I write can be misconstrued makes it even harder for me to get personal and be myself.
While this may sound like I’m complaining, I’m really not.Don’t get me wrong, communicating is something that I am working on every single day. I also know communication in all forms is something that everyone should be willing work and improve on.
I guess you could say this is me writing something personal…
I have a Head Full of Dreams. No.. more like A Head Full of Mush. Just a little pun from my recent Coldplay obsession.
Lately, I’ve been feeling stale. Must be one of the effects of not exercising according to this. I’ve been obsessed with Coldplay lately, so maybe listening to their songs would help remove the mush.
Learned quite a few times that in order to move forward from a project’s problem, one must always think about the original goal of the project. Maybe this will work with me. This year is project CREATE. So what does that look like for me year to date? I did a professional midyear review last week, so I need to do a personal one.
Anyway, I leave you all with a video of Coldplay’s recent tour:
Created opportunities for myself, work wise. (Slowly checking off that list from my last post)
Not a bad first quarter if I say so myself.
This next quarter will be mostly focused on exploration and passion projects. I clearly stopped posting on the blog for 2 months, so I would like to focus on that in the next quarter or so. To help me with this, I decided to take on creative challenges such as the #planwithmechallenge. This is a challenge I discovered while scouring the web for how people use their notebooks to plan their days. The focus of the challenge is to share and gain new ideas on how one can improve their planning system. It will answer the HOW and WHY of my daily planning routine. I currently face challenges in keeping up with my planning and to do list system that I think this may help me face and eliminate those issues.
My planners and why
I currently use 2 planners: big and small Passion Planner. The Passion Planner has a weekly & monthly setup with a few pages at the end of the planner to use for note-taking and brainstorming. I try to keep all work related (whether passion project or my daily 9-5 grind) items in the big one, while the small one is my free form planner where I get to choose what to write each week.
Do I feel like this current system is working for me? Quite honestly, I haven’t figured that out yet. I find myself not referring to them during the work week because I rely mostly on my yellow pad paper for my work to do lists and my digital calendar for personal appointments. I am hoping that this challenge will help me find a way to merge all these resources together.
1. Starbucks’ red cups are out in full force. My neighborhood has Christmas decor already. Radio City Hall has a tree up. How did this happened??? It’s too early for Christmas, but it’s sort of making me giddy.
2. Last month’s “Evaluate Your Life Day” was successful and overwhelming at the same time. So, I will do it again this month on November 15.
3. Daylight Savings Time kicked in today, so this should help me get out of the lazy state I was/am in for the past two months. To start, I will train my brain to think of kickboxing as a skill I need to develop.
October. Oy. Can’t believe this year is almost over.
I’ve been playing catch up with work lately because summer and September was too crazy for me. I’ll let the photographs speak about it:
THE celebrity sighting for me, Bill Cunningham.
Because Hamptons was a bust, Atlantic City is the next best thing.
Me, BFF and sister in line to get cheap MoTown tickets!
Watching MoTown. AMAZING show!
Eating lobster at Chelsea Market. If you’ve done this before, you’ll know how special this is.
Lastly, I was a speaker at the Cosmetic Compliance Summit. It was nerve wracking, but exciting. I made the crowd laugh. I didn’t bore anybody. I even got the crowd stirring during the Q&A portion. This one is for the books.
It’s ok to cry when you’re saying “see you later” for the 100th time.
Trust me, no matter how strong you think you are at holding back the tears, it will always pour down whenever you say “bye” or “see you soon”. However, this should not be an indication that you are a weak person or that you shouldn’t be in a long distance relationship. It’s a sign that you genuinely love the person that every time your part ways, you feel sad.
It’s ok to not talk everyday.
I get it, you want to keep the “spark” alive by talking every day. But, it’s also OK to not to because this way the next time you actually do talk, you would have loads of stories to tell each other.
When you do talk, avoid distractions.
I’m guilty of this on my own relationship, but I advise you to not follow my lead. As much as possible focus on your conversation with your significant other. After all, you’re in a long distance relationship, so talking is the only form of contact/intimacy you have with one another.